I have been thinking hard about what I want in the future. It didnt even make any sense to you why you were fighting. We dated again for over a year, made plans to build a future together and then he went cold with no explanation. Ive mentioned counselling before. She was such sweet kind loving girl before this happened. Seeing that you are an NT male as I read these comments, I am reminded to ask KM or others if support groups exist with mixed gender neurotypical partners in pain. I dont know what to do but i need help because i want to stay with him but i also dont want him to ignore me and i dont know how to cope. A fascinating topic as I'm an (undiagnosed) aspie male in my late 40s and recently had a very intense relationship, culminating with me 'going cold' and ruining everything in a single evening. So i can not know what happened to him that i can deal with it. Just get on with Your life my friend.. Your emotional needs will rarely or never be met. Ive been with him for 35 years so weve made it work. I have noticed a pattern of withdrawal in friendships. The relationship will fail if you think that "dropping hints" or describing your needs in vague terms is enough to get your point across. Apparently he does not have the skills necessary to create a loving relationship. I also agree that it is not a relationship for the feint or heart. Like you all say. Your doctor might increase your dosage if needed. I am now a crumpled thrown away mess They are very good at lying when it comes to not getting into trouble. 19 yrs. He is trying to immigrate to Canada. boxes and gives people fake phone numbers when he first meets them. I feel that if I were to slip out of his life at this point he wouldnt even notice. But then she doesnt really talks to me anyways. Im thinking of just sending a quick, positive text asking who shes doing and that it would be great to catch up. Unfortunately many use the silent treatment to get away from the distress and never return to resolve the problem with the other person. We are meeting after COVID and I really want to see him and i still love him but i dont know how to cope with him being this way. I had this for 12 years it is hell, she was oblivious to the pain she was causing and thought it totally acceptable not to talk to me for weeks and sometimes months. 14 years later he contacted me that we had unfinished business. Get out. Although I've tried, I've been unable to rekindle those feelings of love with anyone else and I'm close to giving up on relationships altogether. Does Aspergers skip generations? Speaking with anyone who can relate would be such a huge blessing. But its difficult as Im such a caring, loving compassionate person. He wont go to the drshe definitely has aspergers. Not everyone with ASD takes this narcissistic path, but when they do it is devastating. same thing happened to me.devastating.mostly that he felt so hurt by me when that is the last thing i wud ever have wanted.i just didnt understand what i was dealing. Whatever the reason, the aspie change resistance kicks in. I have told him I love him, that I want to work things out and willing to stand by his side. He has kind of ghosted me. I know that is an extremely emotional and difficult situation. The reason for this word choice is that most searches about adult autism use the words Aspergers or aspie.. I understand its is autism but it hurts me because I love him dearly but he cant see a future with me. This sounds exactly like my lunatic ex.. except he was very arrogant. I completely understand you. What is Aspergers Syndrome. Good evening all. Then unblocked me and told me that how much of a big mistake it was on my part to call his number few times in a row. We ..us NT,s as they call us.worry about saying the wrong thing in case a meltdown occurs where they go silent or disappear. Hes not that far on the spectrum and I think things will be better by dinner time. All this while, he hid the fact of his aspergers. I have to do this at least for the sake of our lovely daughter. There are also times to Stand Up, Speak Out and Talk Back. Empaths who are not brave cause as much damage as those with Empathy Dysfunction. No sex in the end. A few weeks ago I asked my boyfriend to go and stay with his parents for a while as I needed some space to focus on myself and my son. wow it sounds like Im reading about my self. He took off today for a few days, wouldnt tell me where he is going, and Im going crazy. He Never existed. Kathy, I appreciate your comment on taking care of myself, but do you have a suggestion on how I can rebuild my Aspie husbands trust? He never offered me any attention such as sex, affection or took any real interest in me. I love him more than I have loved anyone and am willing to make long term compromises in order to make our NT/ND relationship work but I feel like all the major sacrifices are coming from me. We have been together for over 2 years. Every day that you navigate the social world and do it beautifully - reminds her that she is a failure. Aspie-neurotypical relationships often start out with intense passion, then fizzle and devolve into disaster. For the aspie: There was that first big fight that happened. I've been dating an undiagnosed AS for a couple of months. Another important point to remember is that its a lot of work for Autists to create the illusion of socializing. They will never meet your needs, so you have to create your own happy life for yourself and forget about them! My wife and I are having a difficult time and I want to talk to her about it and work on things but she shuts me out. I need some advice. My bf takes antidepressants and I suspect he is on the spectrum. So they offer logical explanations and when those dont work, they often resort to the silent treatment. I sometimes see him in social situations (have friends in common) and it seems as I hes doing great, being much more social and not in the depressed and angry state that he lived while being with me. But, a person with cancer has millions of resources that are helpful to understand cancer and what it means and future options. My ex aspie partner doesnt even want anything to do with his own child. Well see. How do men with autism show love? We use cookies on our website to give you the most relevant experience by remembering your preferences and repeat visits. Being that she is a coworker I can't reach out. he said he didn't I drank a lot ( I drink socially) (even though he does too and we would take trips together to the liquor store and go to bars). The relationship felt like magic. He cant handle actually thinking of the topic itself. Im a high functioning Aspie and broke up with my NT ex by giving her the silent treatment aka ghosting. He supposedly had many stalkers, told elaborate stories and his exs were supposedly all too needy or crazy (red flags I wish I noticed early on). When my partner abuses me, I clearly state that I do not take responsibility for his behaviour. That killed me. Now, of course, we clearly see it, but when she was growing up it was unclear. 6. But i found out he has a secret account where hes liking tiktoks of sexy girls dancing but he would be mad at me for talking about a boyband i like and unfollow every celebrity on my Instagram because he says he was jealous (we used to share accounts) and this made us fight and now we are definitely not ok. Forgetting it, or filing it away, or ignoring it are all solutions for those with ASD. You deserve a loving normal individual in your life who can have a date with you, talk to you, look you in the eyes, hold your hand, kiss you. We have had open(ish) conversations about the disorder and how it impacts communication. So be very clear, if they need their space, we must clearly explain that their behaviour is not acceptable and that they can reach out to us when ready to continue. Aspie find it hard to verbalise and speak in logic. The sensory issues that used to overwhelm you didnt seem to have as much power as they used to. Why do Aspies Suddenly Back Off in Relationships (Part 2) In part one, we looked at the role that Change Resistance plays in causing aspies to suddenly It wont change. In recent years I felt that we were getting only the fake version of her. Once at school, you're at the mercy of the timetable but apart from getting the right books to the right classes on time. He blows over the smallest thing. Its oh so hard for them I dont know what to do. Who Manages Your Time? He hasnt spoke, touched or prayed w me . I'm so glad I ran across this blog post. Communication is complicated by the fact that Aspies have trouble mentally putting themselves in another's place, a trait known as "mind-blindness". 1. My anxiety is in overdrive and Im scared to keep bombarding him when I know this might push him away but I also need answers and some form of communication. He also gave me the silent treatment the who day. I cant help but see the man I love trapped in there deep inside, and the two of us have such a deep bond. Very particular eating habits. Hed go to work, game, shower and sleep. This is one of the things that leads me to think he has Aspergers/ASD. Im currently being froze out by him and we havent spoken properly in weeks. Once the lovebombing phase is overbecause its way too much for thembe prepared for the mask to slip..see the truth. Our website has recordings of past teleconferences. (I'm sorry, Wrong Planet isn't allowing me to post the link.) I feel devasted .we have overcome so much , and he just lets it all go. It always has to do with me needing his help and him refusing to stop gaming to provide it, or reluctantly doing so and blaming me for ruining his game. I have been in a relationship for 10 months with someone with Aspergers. I did ask him if he had Aspergers and thats when all the blocking happened. Im not really sure if I am overreacting, but I get worried whenever he behaves a certain way that makes me feel uncomfortable and worried for him. You're an emotionless robot." 8) You care way too much about organizing stuff. I know its hard but no one is entitled to hurt others. I don't know is the answer. I feel I need to practice detachment which might help mine and his relationship work. This is july 21st. I just ended a 9 year relationship with my fianc, who I suspect has aspergers but is not diagnosed. As hard as it is your mental and physical well-being is very important during this time for you to be able to cope. Please take care. Its so so hard being at my place, What ever i do seems to make things worse. I was everything to him, love of his life, you name it. Always take care of yourself and never doubt for a moment that you have been an exceptional spouse. Strange question I know, but it is sometimes overwhelming as a woman to feel that there is no man out there who understands. I never said anything negative about having Asperger's nor was I trying to label him. Then do not mask in the beginning. I believe that many who are healthy minded ( I dont enjoy categorising people) people who have never experienced the difficulties with someone who experiences Aspergers symptoms, just like anyone else, is a new experience. There's not a huge amount of immediately visible difference between "lack of emotional connection" versus "inability to convey emotion". I dont get talk support unless I basically ask for it. 2 2.Why do Aspies Suddenly Back Off in Relationships (Part 2) 3 3.Is it common for Aspies to suddenly withdraw from relationships? She would look intensely into my eyes, we would have hilarious conversations, and totally bonded. While it is unlikely he will understand your hurt feelings, he probably can understand that he has broken an important vow. When we dont know what is going on, or we dont feel heard, we can withdraw into silence. I need him to be evaluated desperately indeed before I lose my sanity. Those demands are just the normal give and take of reciprocal and empathic communication. I notice that all my fellow students and co-workers have no issue in becoming buddies and laughing and joking and hanging out. This is one of the biggest reasons. I finally tried to explain that his silence made me anxious and I needed to know if he is ok. Anyway he ignores my existence so Its all I can do . Be prepared to lose yourself along the way. It all leaves me in a fog because I do not understand enough about the subject and how healthy is it to hang in and try to build something with another person that has a habit of disappearing.Is there any hope for long term living together if they need to live unattached and unable to connect? For anyone with AS needing to back off in a relationship -- talk it through, write it, email it, whatever, but don't make the mistake I did. I've been dating a girl for about a year and during that period she came to the realization that she has Asperger's. He has been diagnosed with ADHD. I was no longer of any use because i dared to ask for support with menopause. I do not know where we are. Love should be a joy. Im confused. I try to keep that in mind that they are NOT being vindictive but just the stress and ASD wiring causing the shutdown and silent, avoidance treatment. I just wanted to share with you, so you dont feel so alone. A lot of people with autism may find it hard to tell a fake friend from a true friend. with no regard to how they will be impacted . Its a long story, but yes,I did hurt him unintentionally. Does anyone have any tips on how to get back in touch with her? And often in online support groups of women only, I cant relate to topics such as physical abuse or outraged/angry approaches. For the first time, you werent experiencing jealousy or fears of infidelity anymore because this was a person who was authentic, genuine, real. It was confusing for you to see these two different people emerge, one in public and one in private. Strong daily routines and an aversion to change. When an autistic man falls in love? If I hadnt been sucked in by his showering of gifts, complements and attentive behaviour (obviously all from a text book) which stopped as soon as he moved in, I would of ran a mile. They went silent. Your partner had seen the worst of you and loved it deeply, but suddenly this tiny detail was catastrophic. It is always US that has to compromise Take care. I tried silence that did not work then one day he just said we are finished would not speak to me so I left and have filed for an annulment. My grown sons also comment on how Much workshop their father is! Ive been driving myself nuts since then. Its hard to keep letting someone doing this know youre there for them and still thinking of them as your partner (I havent seen him in a month). I dont want it to be dragged out if he no longer wants to be with me but I also dont want to abandon him if hes taking time to come out of a freeze loop. I need to know where is ASD effort, energy application of counseling skills to do better by their NT spouse!??! I texted him last night and said asked you to call . As we know, aspies are not the world's best communicators and half of the time they'll be completely unaware that the problem is change resistance. Is there hope or should I walk away? I told him the day after Thanksgiving that I felt these things. . Many ASD actually do better with sertraline, an antidepressant, because they lack seratonin, so maybe youre dealing with something else. Here is the clincher, if it will make you feel any better or to understand the mindset your AS person may be going through as well. Also he is too busy with his work and I dont think he will travel to anywhere else for something he denies. He calls me a bully. I felt accepted. And often also NTs react like that. Kathy, I am the NT in the marriage with the man who I love dearly. The aspie may find it easier to go quiet and say nothing than to speak their mind. In the year that we were together, when we were in each others presence, he was very emotional and empathetic. I drop off with contact and suddenly he turns up. I told him I thought we should take some space so he can figure out whats going on. I've had this happen to me, and it's quite devastating. And once for a larger amount and he to go away for 18 months. He has his family, he has to work through his fear and anxiety which would be extreme at the moment. Me too I am so defeated ar the moment I agrree I am not the my best oerson in this relationshio. He would talk about general stuff (like how is he doing), but never about relationship where I wanted to talk about how we can work things out. He says he needs to feel safe. Im 23 years married , 2 beautiful daughters, age 19 and 16. I am disappointed at you because you hurt me and I refuse to discuss the concerns becuase I struggle with me putting others first. We are in a long distance relationship for 1,5 years. I sometimes feel his a narcissistic person, but then I remind myself his an Aspie. I do not want to grow in this relationship if it is all in my head. His end point was that, this time apart will help me in knowing if I want to be in a relationship with him, as he will not be able to give me what I want in terms empathy, affection etc from that point onwards I started to understand that he has actually taken time to reflect on his behaviour and doesnt want to ruin my life or make me unhappy, as he is not going to be able to change his ways. I'm an NT woman with Aspie traits, so I *get* why my Aspie guy felt he had to back off, but it doesn't help lessen the frustration of being helpless to change that he backed off. Why does your aspie partner sometimes shut. These people are Mindblind. Thank you. He said he really cares about me but cant be more than friends. Does Aspergers skip generations? It's as if I wrote my story when I read theirs. Even if its a tentative diagnosis, when he starts having suspects, he himself may dig into it much more deeply. What I don't understand is that lets just say he did break up with me because he was overwhelmed and unhappy because I was unhappy, if he misses me now and wants to be with me why wouldn't he . Associated conditions, such as a sleep disorder or ADHD, can make driving challenging, too. Isolation or minimal interaction in social situations. I watched videos. They tell a lot when they get mad. Just hang ups/silent treatments/lies I never got the truth on. It was good to understand it in an intellectual way, but still a year later my feelings don't follow reason. He left a long term relationship to be with me, he has a child, also on the spectrum. He went through a period when he did not know what to do with his life, I tried to help but became frustrated with both the lack of direction as well as the lack of communication. Its happened before.and it usually takes me to approach him. She was defensive. Am alarmed to think it could continue for years, admire you coping as long as you have. I started dating this guy for last few months. Even screamed at, and things thrown/punched walls. You are not alone Ashley. Why do Aspies Suddenly Back Off in Relationships (Part 2) In part one, we looked at the role that Change Resistance plays in causing aspies to suddenly go "cold" in otherwise good relationships. Sometimes when I find I click with someone and they want to become friends or more I get nervous. I even gave him a very expensive gift and heartfelt card that told him i loved him, was there for him, etcand no text or in person thank you or goodbye. Dear Renee. He was mad that I contacted his friend ( I did it cuz I wanted advice how to handle this. Its all about Them. Hi im greatful to read all of this comments im in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years now and the start was pretty good and I didnt know he has aspergers until 6 months into our relationship. Be grateful that you have the stamina to do so. I want to stay healthy this time around. You Will have to sacrifice who you are in order to stay with them. Next conflict was him stopping me in mid conversation to say he was bored by what I was talking about. The cookie is set by GDPR cookie consent to record the user consent for the cookies in the category "Functional". Being able to express your emotions and be emotionally supportive of each other is the lifeblood of a healthy relationship. I could go on and on but why!!?? I finally got help that he may be Aspergers. First, for the couple, please take my recorded online course. When I tried to open up about deep and painful stuff, they just said, hmm. It really hurt. I went through a lot of silent treatments and neglect but whats worse is that he cheated on me. Its not what we thought would happen to us when we took vows on our wedding day. I also think one or both of his parents are on the spectrum but thats a tale for another time. He would stay up late and I woke up to bring him to bed and as soon as I started cuddling with him he breaks it off to me " I don't thinks this is working any more" I thought he was joking! 15 years inshell of myself, goals unmet, dreams deferred, hopes dashed, weight gain, depression, addictions!! Just recently 1 month ago we went on a trip together and he blew up on me for saying no to an excursion. Common ASD symptoms are motor coordination challenges, delayed decision-making skills and problems with executive functioning (those higher-level thinking skills, like multi-tasking). Its been almost a week since he shut down, and four days since he replied to my texts. You didnt so dont cry to me later on. Im getting the silent treatment today. The last 2 years have been push/pull. He said we would when he got out of this rut hes in. To try and understand him better. How to confront your Aspie. Your decision to protect yourself came at the expense of losing someone you cared for (and cared for you). I got pretty upset today and he texted me back. Well discuss: How to recognize the abuse. I have been through marriage counselling, long tearful talks with my sister and daughter on and off for 19 years because of arguments that have turned abusive , with my husband. Again it all seems one way and him not taking consideration of my feelings etc.. why it's so important to learn more about your partner's condition. With this person, you became the best version of yourself. I'm guessing they do most of the talking and initiative, such as inviting you to places, etc, you feel left out and not in control so your interest may simply die out. Actually, admitting they didnt know something actually became a common and exhausting theme. Today I have the first sign of coming back of my husbandafter one year of back off my husband was like we have met! I also wondered if there is someone else. July 21st. I had found someone as serious on routines as I I have anxiety and ADD so need great organisation to function properly. Click on the image below to request a free chapter. Its ruined me. I just wish we were still together. But for Autists its out of sight, out of mind. 4 4.Why Do Aspies - Wives and Partners of Aspies - Aspergers; 5 5.Aspie Shutdown and Withdrawal: Dealing with Sudden Emotional 6 6.Aspie dumped me out of the blue - why so sudden? He seems completely shut down. I am also friendly with two women at work she is friends with. He is very close with his family and I found out yesterday that he had spent the last 3 weeks across the country with his family. He asked me a month before, how are you feeling about me and my behavior. I dont want to be ignorant Im just trying to understand. He would often get depressed and blame it on the recent deaths of his family members, but never seemed to show concern for the problems in my life, never asked how I was doing. Almost immediately we moved in, I began to become overwhelmed with the life changes required and within a week I wanted to run. So to save alot of heartbreak, upset and unecessary mental grief for all..be true to who you really are. I guess I have been "on trial" all these months and didn't know it. I wrote him once one year ago but he never answered so i just let him be better off without me. Now Im not sure were even in the same book. The sophistication and intricacy of dating aspie man nightmare these simulators continued to grow. I just cant carry on like this.. Psychologists will tell you that when a person cuts you out of their life or shuts you down in these passive aggressive ways, they suffer from a narcissistic wound. He cant cope with the intense emotions he is experiencing, so he has shut down and actually regressed. But what I have come to realise is that asperger's really is a developmental disorder. They only care about themselves .It is a hard realisation to make but they will not change or see what harm and hurt they cause . Key points. It becomes too much so mask does slip. Offer help and tell that person you are there for them, etc. Seriously. With the pressure off of them to perform to the NT standards, they have less anxiety and a bit more time to actually consider the outcome of their behavior. In what ways could you relate? Just send me an email through my website. Armed with this info, I told I was sorry I hurt his feelings. At the back of my mind is the gnawing feeling of what if he isnt on the spectrum and is just being an uncaring selfish asshole? He only talked to me to gaslight me and ignores all my messages. I am Nothing. It is going to take me awhile to pick up all the destruction he left behind.. he has caused us so many problems .. to me it is not worth staying or fighting because they cant change long term.. they are who they are.. we will be the ones that have to change everything to be with them and Im not interested in spending the rest of my life on egg shells.. you should consider the same.. you will live a life of constant rejection.. nobody deserves that.. Im reading the comments, all of them are close to my reality and yours is the closest. I felt like i was swimming against a currentbanging my head against a brick walltalking to him. The only time we have any contact is dinner and it is as quick as she can get away back to the bedroom. If youre a member of the group, please register for the call to discuss The Silent Treatment on Thursday, October 6, 2016 at 2:30 PM or Thursday, October 27 at 3:00 PM. Once the Lovebombing phase overbe prepared for WAR! What is hard to understand is we have good times. Still I have been hurt, confused and in doubt a lot of the time. Leave him be, I was never going to be happy with him, he warned me he was like this. How are you going now. I didnt figure it out until year 18 so the damage was beyond repair. Edmonton, Alberta. My personality, which is heavily affected by my condition, is always nice, overly logical (sometimes can't read emotions) and helpful but I can't get into arguments (either go silent or get heavily triggered). I tried to keep it neutral but somehow, it just works better when explained from a male viewpoint. He has been fixated on COVID intently all year and is obsessed. Other uncategorized cookies are those that are being analyzed and have not been classified into a category as yet. He moves on as if i never was..never existed. When I asked if hed like to meet and talk, he said he had nothing to say, and does not want to. He spent over 100 grand in a couple months on international trips and presents, we had a lot in common, and shared very niche shared passions. Hi July 21st and thanks for responding! Hed either change the topic or try to distract me by doing something nice. February 3, 2021 / 1:08 pm (MST) Tell me if you have overcome your situation n tell me what are you doing to help yourself and the situation. You were living your life as usual, but your partner began feeling like your independent actions had something to do with them. Not willing to talk/not willing to engage. But I feel he is confused, Hi Ashley I am going through similar situation. For the aspie: At the beginning, you were amazed. He is giving me the silent treatment and I am completely devastated. There are almost no helpful resources for understanding the fundamental differences between NTs and NDs. I generally like to stay positive on this blog and assume that people are not necessarily "evil" but simply misguided. He does better than me, but still we both are pretty awkward depending on the setting. Go now. Luckily we are not married and do not live together so if we do separate there is less at stake, except my heart and a long investment. I'm in a similar situation and am confused. When we first dated, he was so sweet and responsive in person. No matter what he does for me or buys me.he throws it back at me. We planed so many things for our future. This is a tough life. I sent him an email yesterday trying to communicate with him that I now understand how he is wired, without mentioning any autism disorder. I first noticed that they seemed to act fake almost? Then he got weird. Thank you to whoever replies. The physicality of sex is far easier in terms of communication in. @KAW, I don't know about the incidence of bipolar, only that depression and anxiety can plague Aspies. 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